Today I wanted to share a page from a magazine I love to read called “Breathe: Mental Health.”
It’s about being stuck in the overthinking cycle. And, offers some tips on how to give acceptance to second chances in yourself.
Failure is hard for some people. When we, fail we automatically put ourselves down for messing up then we never want to try again because of the experience that came with failure in the past.
This article inspired me to keep going, even if it isn’t what I expected.
Let me know what you think.
If you’re stuck in a frustrating loop with yourself and not sure how to move forward, here’s a three-point guide to giving or accepting a second chance
- It’s important to know that everyone sees situations through their own lens of the world.
How could you try to consider things from the other person’s perspective? Ask yourself: “What could I be missing or not seeing right now? If I believe they’re doing the best they can, how would that change things?”
- The brain is wired to keep us safe. This means that a lot of the time people react from a place of fear and worry without realizing it. Deep down, they’re thinking: “What if I mess this up? What will they think of me? What if I fail?” To get out of this cycle, ask yourself: “What’s this really about?” And, the most popular question: “If I were to respond from a place of love, what would that look like?”
- Finally, check whether you’re offering this second chance for the right reasons. This means knowing yourself and your needs. What’s most important to you? Are you worried about what others will think or are you doing this because it really matters to you? If you’re trapped in that worry, or feeling like it’s a burden, then you might be stuck in your own fears. What is it you’re most afraid of? What could you do to remind yourself that you deserve this and you’re worthy? Also, if this is a fresh start that’s been granted, what’s the big lesson you’re taking away and how will you do things differently this time?
This page resonates with me when I struggle to explore my social anxiety. When I get, embarrassed I tend to close off who I am to protect myself. I’ll correct my personality to please the other person(s). Which, in the end, only makes me unhappy with who I am because of fear of not being accepted. It’s is something that keeps me from going outside because I don’t want to deal with people.
These questions help keep me grounded with my true self and in tune with my intentions with others. I’m not here to please everyone.
My mantra I’ve been using lately.—> “People aren’t going to like you. They don’t even like themselves.”
I hope you enjoyed today’s post.
Thank you for being here.