Affirmations of the Week!

Affirmations of the Week!


Welcome, to this week’s Affirmations of the Week!

Positive Affirmations Every Monday!

Many of us struggle daily with our inner negative Nancy. Although, I have discovered a way to block out negative thoughts. It helps to write down positive quotes and affirmations that make me feel confident and more at peace.

 When I find myself in a mood for the day, I refer back to the positive quotes and affirmations I’ve previously written to help snap out of the negativity. Happiness is a choice you have to choose everyday. I know all too well, how easy it can be to fall into that overthinking cycle of negativity, and how difficult it can be to get out. That’s the reason I make these posts every Monday to help others like me break that cycle.

  • It’s okay to be alone.
  • You can’t control shit except your state of mind.
  • All things and feelings are temporary
  • My past experiences shaped me they do not define me.
  • Love yourself first.
  • You will not heal by going back to what broke you.
  • Learn to let go in order to grow.
  • I choose to be happy
  • Things will work themselves out. Just stay positive and grateful.
  • It’s okay to let people in to love and help you.
  • I deserve love and joy despite feeling unworthy at times.
  • It doesn’t matter what others think of you. What does matter is how you think of yourself.
  • I am not crazy just overly protective of my heart.
  • I will be more compassionate towards myself.
  • I appreciate my mind, body, and soul.

Beautiful Flowers

Beautiful Flowers

Flowers fragile and beautiful.
What comes to your mind when you think about a flower?
Is it love, loss, strength, positivity?

There are so many flowers in this world and like people.
They are all unique in there own way.

Flowers seem so fragile
on the outside
but on the inside
They stay stable during the harshest of weather.
Through wind, rain
Flowers remain
Calling the sun by name
Stretching, glowing
Even better now
After the weather

I like to see myself as a flower. Rare strong, beautiful, able to make it through whatever.
We all are,
Beautiful flowers

I actually took this picture^

Why You Should Read More Books

Why You Should Read More Books

Read to Stimulate Your Brain

Did you know that reading regularly helps in preventing Alzheimer’s and Dementia? Mental stimulation keeps the brain active and engaged. Just like working out your muscles in your body, your brain needs exercise to stay healthy and strong.

Reading Reduces Stress

Getting lost in a book can take all your worries away. Allowing yourself the time and attention to be able to get lost in a remarkably good story can be very relaxing and beneficial in many ways. For example, reading reduces your heart rate, which keeps the stress levels low.

Improves Memory

Reading stimulates our brains, which then creates connections between neurons that are called Synapses. During the process of synapses, your brain receives new memories and strengthens the existing ones. The more frequently you read, the better your mind gets at remembering and retaining all the new knowledge.

Improves Focus and Concentration

Reading helps train your intrusive thoughts a little discipline. To fully comprehend and absorb what you are reading requires 100% of your focus and attention. As you begin to focus, you can tune out any distractions happening around you, strengthening your attention span and increasing your concentration toward other aspects of life, not just reading.

Expands Vocabulary

Reading one book doesn’t impact your vocabulary overnight. It’s the consistency of reading and the exposure to words that help the definition to stick in our brains. Like exercise, you can’t expect results if we quit and give up. Reading daily works out the brain, and gets it prepared for new information to memorize, and store away for when the information is needed.

Reading Makes You Smarter

Having a consistent reading habit increases different types of intelligence in your brain. For example, Crystallized Intelligence, knowing and understanding literal facts, figures, and data.

Many books have in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics, subjects, and inventions. The more you read, the more information your brain stores.

Other examples include:
Fluid Intelligence-the ability to problem-solve, detect a pattern.
Emotional Intelligence-the ability to feel emotions and make connections to those feelings

Reading Improves Your Imagination & Creativity

When getting lost in a good book, your entire being gets teleport-ed to another realm. You experience the things happening in your reading as if it were your new life, new friends, new places, new experiences, and new lessons learned by new fresher broken hearts. Reading opens your eyes to all kinds of possibilities. When you read, you work out your imagination, increasing creativity.


Affirmations of the Week!

Affirmations of the Week!


Welcome, to this week’s Affirmations of the Week!

Positive Affirmations Every Monday!

Many of us struggle daily with our inner negative Nancy. Although, I have discovered a way to block out negative thoughts. It helps to write down positive quotes and affirmations that make me feel confident and more at peace.

 When I find myself in a mood for the day, I refer back to the positive quotes and affirmations I’ve previously written to help snap out of the negativity. Happiness is a choice you have to choose everyday. I know all too well, how easy it can be to fall into that overthinking cycle of negativity, and how difficult it can be to get out. That’s the reason I make these posts every Monday to help others like me break that cycle. 

*Quotes by Roy T. Bennett, The Light In The Heart*

  • The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.
  • What other people think and say about you is none of your business. The most destructive thing you can do is believe someone else’s opinion of you.
  • Being grateful does not mean that everything is necessarily good. It just means that you can accept it as a gift.
  • Keep your mind open. The meaning of things lies in how good people perceive them. The same thing could mean different meanings to the same people at different times.
  • The biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind.
  • Stop comparing yourself to other people, just choose to be happy and live your own life.
  • No amount of regretting can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future.
  • You need to have faith in yourself. Be brave and take risks. You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
  • Dreams don’t work unless you take action. The surest way to make your dreams come true is to live them.
  • To have what you have never had, you have to do what you have never done.
  • Do what is right, not what is easy nor what is popular.
  • Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they don’t need the approval of others.
  • Great things happen to those who don’t stop believing, trying, and being grateful.
  • Nothing can disturb your peace of mind unless you allow it to.

*Personal Affirmations*

  • I am beautiful inside and out.
  • I can choose how I want to perceive every situation.
  • I am embracing each moment with gratitude.
  • I am letting love lead the way.
  • I am healthy and I am free.
  • I have the right to be happy, to shine, to succeed.
  • I live in a world full of infinite love.
  • Kindness is free.
  • I am loved
  • I am enough
  • I am strong
  • I am proud to be me
  • I am grateful for my experiences, hurt, and lessons learned.

I hope this post helps you feel more at peace. Have a wonderful week!

Ways To Feel More Secure

Ways To Feel More Secure

What does it mean to feel secure?

To feel secure means to feel safe, protected, and loved. The sense of knowing you are not alone, you are not in danger of being attacked, and you are not afraid.

Feeling secure with yourself, your relationship. It isn’t easy at all. I, for one, am steadily at being insecure, a pro at turning everything into negative thinking. But lately, I’ve been thinking. What would help me to feel more secure?

For some people, the feeling of security means to have a good job that you enjoy, with a generous income, but I want to discuss the emotional sense of security. The side of you that judges what you wear or how others look compared to you. Being insecure can destroy many things in your mind, body, and soul. Feeding my negative demons inside with all the insecurities, I’ve forgotten how to feel secure in my very own flesh. Down below are a few examples that help me to remain confident and secure.

I hope this can help those struggling to feel secure as I am. Although I’m still learning, I thought I’d share some tips with you. Enjoy!

Ways To Feel More Secure With Yourself.

Talk to yourself, give yourself multiple pep talks. Let that positive ” I can” voice in and challenge all negative thoughts that come to mind with a positive view. DO NOT BULLY YOURSELF! Be your mind’s own best friend, and support it with love and kindness. No matter how bad things get inside your thoughts, focus on the positive ones.

Reach out for support. Try to call a friend, a family member, or anyone who you can talk to that will remind you that you are loved, and they are thinking about you always. You are not alone, and the people that love you are only a phone call away whenever insecure.

Believe in yourself. If you let the voice in your head keep telling you that you can’t do something, not only will you start to believe it.., your heart will consider it too. You won’t give as much effort as you would if you had encouraged yourself in the beginning, and less motivation used almost always results in failure. Trust your heart, and believe in yourself that you can do anything if you just support and trust your heart.

Take care of your body. Feeling a range of emotions can be overwhelming, causing tension in our bodies, which can be very unhealthy after some time of no release. It’s vital to take time for yourself to relax and take deep breaths to help relieve some tension you might be feeling. Do a mental body scan, if any areas feel tensed up, continue your deep breathing, and mentally breathe into the areas that need release.

List your attributes. Everyone has good things in themselves, make a list of what’s good about you. Write about your positive attributes, from physical features to personality traits. Try to explain in detail why it is you like these things about yourself, and when you realized you had it in you.

Smile to yourself, In the book, 10-Minute Mindfulness by S.J. Scott & Barrie Davenport. They talk about many benefits of smiling at yourself every time you catch a glimpse of your reflection. Even if it is fake, a smile at yourself has proven to increase your mood positively, having a much better attitude towards the day.

Notice how grateful you are. Take some time, notice all the good in the world. Be grateful for running water, easy access to food, opportunities, freedom, I can go on. Simply being mindful of your gratitude, and feeling blessed leaves your heart feeling full, resulting in more radiant you.

When you look good, you feel good. Take a shower, shave your legs, fix your hair, do your make-up, get dressed up, but do it for yourself, not anyone else. Appearing confident on the outside influences the way you feel about yourself on the inside.

Think and act in a positive way. Do something good even when no one is watching, and never! Never judge, not yourself, or anyone else. Acts of kindness boost our spirits and those of others. When someone sees you in the act of kindness, it usually will spark hope in them to spread kindness to someone they come across that is in need as well.

Ways To Feel Secure In Your Relationship.

Let go of the little things. I struggle intensely with holding grudges. Ranging from big to small, I will hold on to it and used it when I feel threatened. Which isn’t healthy at all, it’s very toxic in any relationship. It’s important to know that nobody in this world is perfect. People make mistakes, talk it out if you are upset, you’ll feel SO much better to get it off your shoulders. There is no reason you should stress yourself out over something so small, something you can’t control, talk it out, let go and move on with life.

Focus on the positive. Think about the 1st time you noticed your partner, first moment you fell in love? Reminisce about the things that excite you about your partner, think of the times you truly felt at home with each other. This practice is remarkably rewarding to do when you both are upset with each other it aids you back to one another, and recognize why it’s necessary to keep trying.

Speak up. If you feel uneasy with your partner about something that was said or done, don’t leave it alone to eat up at you until you explode, which is incredibly toxic for yourself and your relationships. Let them know right away, talk about it like adults, find a solution, and you both will feel more secure with each other.

Touch each other. Never underestimate the power of physical touch. Holding hands, kissing, cuddling, and eye contact is so necessary toward showing your partner you love and care about them. Communicate to your partner about how touch is essential and ways you can make an effort to touch each other more often.

Support each other. Give each other support in whatever it is that inspires them. Whether it be a hobby, tough decisions, career change, if they believe in it, you should too, you should be their cheerleader cheering them on with love support as they achieve their goals and live their dreams, and your partner should do the same for you.

Trust! Past relationships with bad experiences can make trusting anyone ever again very difficult, especially if your stubborn like me. I am very protective of my heart. My mind is my worst enemy when it comes to putting my faith and trust in someone else, but this is a very unhealthy habit that has caused many problems in my relationships, resulting in bitterness.

Having trust in your relationships is the first step to having a happy and healthy, long-lasting, beautiful relationship. When you begin to trust, it feels like being in a field of wildflowers, but you have to plant the first seed.

Stop playing games. Play board games, not mind games.
Mind games in a relationship are the worst kind of toxic. Leaving your partner to chase after you will only result in you pushing them away, maybe it was cute in high school, but we are adults now. And playing with someone’s heart and emotions is very annoying, and unhealthy for your partner to have to deal with, Do NOT take your partner for granted.

Remember that they choose you. You have got to STOP comparing yourself and your relations to others. This person picked you out of so many other flowers you are extraordinary to your partner, cherish that.

Don’t jump to conclusion. Often, if we sense something is off in our partner, we tend to panic and automatically assume the worst. While feeling anxious and insecure, it turns into a dispute because we’ve jumped to a conclusion instead of just communicating with our partner. This behavior of passive aggression can cause our partner to want to distance themselves. Always remember communication is key!

Make an effort. A relationship always takes two. Don’t leave everything up to your partner. You should be just as responsible. If you feel overwhelmed or feel your partner isn’t putting in the effort, and you need some help. Communicate with your partner the importance of having equal responsibilities in a relationship. Compromise a solution that works for you both and makes you both happy.

Find Yourself

Find Yourself

What does it mean to find yourself?
To find yourself means to find out the kind of person you are and what you want in life.
So what kind of person am I?
Because I know the person I want to be, and I know what I want in life, but what if the person I want to be isn’t the kind of person I am?
What if I’m lying to myself about being high and mighty when in reality I’m just another wannabe.
What does it mean to find yourself?
To find yourself means to pick a personality trait and mock it till you can rock it, Right?
What does it mean to find yourself?
“Reflect on your past, you’ll find yourself at last.”
They say with smiles that go for miles.
Still, I ask you.
What does it mean to find yourself?

11 Ways To Be Kind To Yourself

11 Ways To Be Kind To Yourself

A few days ago a made a blog post about reasons you should be kind to yourself. If you haven’t read it yet, I suggest you head over to my blog, and check it out. Inspired by my other post. Today I will be sharing with you guys way to be kind to yourself! I hope this helps you guys! Enjoy!

  • Gratitude Journal, writing down a few things you feel grateful for help to improve your mood outstandingly. For example, in my journal, I wrote that I was thankful for being able to see and experience all the nature in the world. Start small but stay consistent, by writing down the things that make you happy and feel blessed, you will start to see positive changes in yourself and your mood.

It’s best to start writing your gratitude’s down first thing in the morning to start the day off on a positive note, or you can also write them down before you go to bed. I find before bed best suits me as it leaves me with a full heart and peaceful mind, making it much easier to stay asleep throughout the night. Everyone is different, so try them both out, see which method works best for you, and stay consistent with it. Consistency is key.

  • You Time, It’s essential that every day that you dedicate some time for yourself. You owe it to yourself to take time out of the day to do something that brings you joy. Anything your heart desires, read, write, draw, paint your nails, do your make up, fix your hair, whatever leaves you feeling good about yourself inside, and out.
  • Praise Yourself Often. Give yourself recognition for even the smallest accomplishments. When you feel proud of yourself, don’t be ashamed to compliment yourself and celebrate with a pat on the back and a bottle of wine. ANY accomplishment is one step closer to reaching your long term goals, and praising yourself helps to keep you motivated to continue working toward crossing achievements off your list.
  • Challenge Your Negative Thoughts. When you notice negative thoughts starting to crowd your mind, think of things you can do or say to yourself to contradict the negative thoughts occurring in your subconscious mind, by exchanging them with positive thoughts. I’ll use myself as an example I struggle with comparing myself to others. “Why can’t I look like that?” or “I wish I had that.” Instead of letting myself dwell on my negative thoughts, I try to reassure myself with encouraging and positive facts about myself. ” I am beautiful just the way I am inside and out.” ” I have everything I ever wanted. I am truly blessed,” Some days I have to repeat myself loudly to stop the negative thoughts.
  • Giving Yourself Forgiveness, Making mistakes is a way of life, but it’s all about how we learn and grow from the mistakes made, how we carry on with ourselves afterward. If you’ve made a mistake and still beat yourself up over it, you can never expect to be happy in anything you do.

Forgive yourself and move forward. At least now you know what NOT to do, and that’s better than not knowing anything at all. Don’t let your past hold you back from becoming your best version of yourself and STOP blaming yourself. Forgive and Forget!

  • Self Care Routine. Self-care routines are never the same between the others around you. Everyone is different, so find which self-care activities benefit you best and stick to it. When you feel they aren’t giving off the same satisfaction, try out a new one.
    • Here are a few examples of some Self-Care Activities.
      1. Get a Good Nights Sleep. Lack of sleep frequently can be very hazardous to your overall health and mental health, so you must get at least 6 to 8 hours of sleep to remain focused, happy, and healthy.
      2. Eat Your Fruits & Veggies. Although you might not like it, your body does, and it needs it.
      3. Exercise Regularly, now this doesn’t mean it has to be intense heavy lifting. It can be as simple as taking a walk for 15-30 minutes. Whatever sort of movement done frequently influences the mind and body in a positive and rewarding way.
      4. Get Some Sun! Vitamin D, also known as “the sunshine vitamin,” a very significant ingredient needed to maintaining overall health in the mind, body, and soul, providing many benefits such as lowering high blood pressure and improves brain function, also who doesn’t like fresh air?
      5. Read a Book or Learn Something New, anything to get your brain going. Not only will you feel good about yourself, but it helps to stay mindful, and to be more present.
      6. Treat Yourself, It’s okay to buy yourself a gift now and then or to pamper yourself with a tasty dessert, or a Mani/Pedi. As long as you know your limits and know when to stop, it’s good for your mind and soul to give yourself rewards.
      7. Skin-Care Routine, If your skin feels good, you feel good. Take a bubble bath, use a face mask, fix your hair, moisturize your body, etc. Anything that helps your skin to look and feel beautiful.
  • Believe in Your Affirmations. Anybody can write an affirmation, but can you write it, and honestly believe in it? Just saying ” I am loved” isn’t good enough. You have to mean it, and sincerely believe in it!
  • Know Your Goals, It’s important to know what you want in life. It makes it more natural to stay on track of what is needed to achieve your bigger picture. Writing down your goals gives you the chance to see your dreams in person. Not to mention the sensation you get when you get to cross your goals off, getting closer and closer to your best you!
  • Respect Yourself, Love yourself for who you are, trust yourself, voice your opinion, own your decisions, learn and grow from your mistakes, but never under any circumstances, do you EVER bully yourself, compare yourself to others or blame yourself. You are the only one in the world like you, own that shit and shine!
  • Show Compassion, It’s always good to show others compassion, buts it crucial to give yourself self-compassion first.
    • A few examples of Self-Compassion include:
      • Write a letter to yourself. Write about the hard times you’ve endured, and how you came up from it, what you learned from the experience. Acknowledging then releasing the past helps to see how the trauma of the past has shaped us into the person you are today. Afterward, it will leave you feeling positive and motivated, more at peace with yourself and your past.
      • Meditation, Meditation, good for the mind, body, and soul, our body craves the mindfulness experience. Meditating rewards you with the feeling of being zen, at peace with yourself and the world around you. There are many videos, websites, tips on how to meditate if your new to the zen.
      • Relax. Take time out of the day to do something you really enjoy or solely do nothing at all. Take a nap, watch a movie, kick your feet up after a long day, you deserve it!
      • Take Yourself on A Date. Get dressed up, do your makeup, and fix your hair, have yourself a date night. Take yourself somewhere romantic. Doing so offers the opportunity to learn about yourself more, become more experienced with needs and desires.
  • Have Trust in Yourself. Trust your gut feeling. Never second guess yourself, have faith that you know what is best for you, and follow your heart without hesitation.
  • Memory Journal. Write down your fondest memories. Anyone you can remember that brings you joy. Write about any event that happened that you can reflect on when you are feeling uneasy or upset. It can be as simple as going to the pet park to play with random dogos, to personal ones like a memory of joking around laughing with a loved one.

Being kind to yourself is step one closer to a happier, more energetic you! Choose to be happy. Choose to be generous. Choose the best version of yourself every day.

I hope you guys enjoyed and I hope this helps you learn to love yourself more!♥


Affirmations of the Week!

Affirmations of the Week!

Happiness starts within you!

Affirmations help to bring in positive vibes as the new week begins. Here’s a few I wanted to share with you. I hope you enjoy and have a blessed week!

  • Quotes by Roy T. Bennett, The Light In The Heart
    1. Learning to distance yourself from all negativity is one of the greatest lessons to achieve inner peace.
    2. Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.
    3. Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, stop caring about what others think.
    4. Believe in your heart that you’re meant to live a life full of passion, purpose, magic, and miracles.
    5. Attitude is everything. Change your attitude and you change your life.
    6. Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.
    7. You cannot control the behavior of others, but you can always choose how you respond to it.
    8. When you take control of your attitude, you take control of your life.
    9. Never settle for anything less than you deserve or are capable of achieving.
    10. Never let self-doubt hold you captive. You are worthy of all that you dream and hope for.
  • I have faith in myself
  • I am blessed to be able to live the life I have.
  • Everything will work out for me.
  • I am excited about who I will become in the future.
  • I am responsible and driven.
  • I can accomplish anything I put my mind too.
  • Today will be the day for me to shine.
  • I have trust and respect for myself.

10 Reasons Why You Should Be Kind To Yourself

10 Reasons Why You Should Be Kind To Yourself

Many of us struggle continuously with our inner critic. It’s similar to having a miniature devil on your shoulder, but instead of encouraging you to do bad, It belittles and judges you for making the slightest mistake still resulting in an evil person. Just like the time when you cursed the old lady for cutting you off on the highway while out getting coffee or the time you submitted a post online and noticed too late a misspelled word resulting in you calling yourself stupid and putting yourself down. Yeah, we all go through it, and sadly the more we criticize and judge ourselves the more damaging it is to our mental health and can lead to depression & anxiety. Not to worry, because an easy fix is to simply be nicer to yourself, a basic compliment, encouragement and support to ourselves- as if you were comforting a friend or loved one who had been negative about themselves -can go a long way. Happiness is a choice you have to choose every day, to be kind to yourself, and others around you no matter how difficult things can get sometimes. With practice it gets easier and becomes a more natural to who you are.

Today I share with you a few reasons why you should always be kind to yourself. I hope you enjoy!

  1. Be Kind To Yourself. Being kind to yourself helps to keep both mind and body strong and healthy.
  2. It provides powerful health benefits, such as Reducing Stress Levels. Research shows that self-compassion – treating yourself with support, and understanding instead of criticism, helps decrease stress on the mind and body.
  3. Lowers Your Heart Rate, When we find ourselves in a challenging or upsetting situation, our brains react in self-defense, and our hearts will start to beat rapidly, increasing heart rate can cause serious health issues.
  4. Switches off the body’s threat response, (A.K.A), Fight or Flight response is also known as the acute stress response, a reaction caused by the release of hormones that prompts us to feel scared or threatened. Our brain sends signals to the body to either stay and deal with the threat or run away to safety. An unfortunate choice our ancient ancestors had to endure regularly to survive the harsh environment.
  5. Opens Your Mind to all the uniqueness in the world, being open-minded is a positive quality that offers the ability to thinking critically and rationally.
  6. Opens Your Heart to a feeling of pure joy, and feeling at home with yourself and your body, and finally, with peace in your mind, your heart can find love. Able to have compassion for others, to show affection and appreciation more often.
  7. Keeps You Motivated! The strengths of being kind to ourselves and embracing our best versions of who we want to be, giving us the power to feel encouraged and energized enough to stay positive, motivated, and happy.
  8. Boosts Self-Esteem & Confidence, self-compassion is a start to loving yourself for you the flaws and all. With a more positive attitude toward yourself, it will be easier to find your confidence as well.
  9. Helps Achieve Goals As we continue to practice self-compassion, it becomes natural to see the good in all things, easy to be compassionate to yourself, and others. With having an increasingly positive attitude and a boost of motivation, it becomes a breeze to cross goals off your list. Achieving your goals is no longer anxiety-filled, and the only praise you’ll ever need is YOUR congrats from YOURSELF as a reward for accomplishing your dreams.
  10. Improves Memory & Boost Creativity, replacing all the negative thoughts to positive ones delivers up all this additional space, your head is clear and free to absorb new knowledge or retrieve old.


Affirmations of the Week!

Affirmations of the Week!

Happiness starts within you! Affirmations help bring me positive vibes to get through the week. Here’s a few I’ve chosen to share with you.

  • I choose nice.
  • I am healthy
  • I will be happy
  • I am strong
  • I am brave
  • I am human
  • I can do better next time.
  • I can be anything I want.
  • My positive thoughts create positive feelings.
  • I believe in myself.
  • I deserve to be loved.
  • I on;y compare myself to myself.
  • I believe in my goals and dreams
  • My mistakes help me learn and grow.
  • I always get through the worst.
  • This week will be a great week.

Have the best week ever!